There are more pressures on women than ever before, too - to be good moms/wives/girlfriends, to be thin, to look a certain way or dress a certain way, or to act a certain way. I mean, how often do we suffer from serious body-comparisson hangover?
For whatever reason, we tend to let our self care go before anything else. When we're going through a major change we can let our health get outta whack. The physical effects of not sleeping/eating/exercising can come in all forms depending on the person. Here's some of what I experience when I'm not taking care of myself well. See anything you recognize?:
- Migraines (if you have never had one of these before, you don't want to.)
- Tight muscles + back probs + severe muscle aches
- Bloated + heavy feeling in my stomach
- Heart palpitations from being anxious + stressed
- Feel + look tired (sallow skin, paleness, under eye bags, feeling forgetful/fuzzy, lack of focus)
Nobody got time for that.
Taking care of your self has to be a priority. It's difficult to be good at what you want to be good at, to serve people well as a coach, to focus at work, and it's hard to be a great parent/spouse/family member.
Here are some ways that you can do that AND not lose sight of the big things you want to accomplish, and the people you would love to spend time with.
1. Understand that you're unique and enough just the way you ARE. What you want is possible for you, and You're Worth It. Someone else is doing exactly what you want to do, right? They're out there doing yoga or prancercising or whatever makes them feel great - which means it's DOABLE FOR YOU. Just understand that first before you put too much pressure on yourself to look/be/dress a certain way, ok? (If you don't know what prancercise is, it's kind of essential knowledge these days. Watch the video.)
2. Don't ever feel guilty for taking time to take care of yourself. James Altucher talks about this in his amazing book, Choose Yourself, how if he lets one part of his life slip, everything else in his life is affected. There are a ton of health + wellness coaches out there who say the same. Whatever effort you can make today to take care of yourself, it's worth it. You don't need anyone's permission, and you don't need anyone's judgement (especially your own!) You dig?
3. Be open to the possibility that your commitment to your own self care and well being may actually be a great example and source of inspiration for the people around you.
Many people put exercise and eating well on the back burner when things heat up at work, and I know I've gone through periods where I did - before and after husband and baby boy came along. We feel guilty, we think other people will judge us, we think it makes us selfish, we think... a lot of crazy things.
I used to feel guilty for taking time for myself. A lot of women feel like it means less time with your babies, less time cleaning, less time working. Sometimes it feels "selfish". I get it. Having my own business that is now taking off, I'll admit that it's really difficult some days to eat well or work out (mostly now because I'm so inspired and have a million and one ideas and have amazing clients to work with!) But I make effort to stay on track.
You've gotta take care of yourself, or you can't really take care of anyone else. How inspiring is the "always busy" and "always burnt out" woman? How inspiring is "resentful mom"?
If you need some inspiration, or permission (which you shouldn't have to ask for, btw), watch this video. It's so cool to see how we can impact people around us by taking care of ourselves.
[QUEUE: TEARS FROM THE DEPTHS OF MY SOUL.]