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Beating "Busy": How to Use Your Intuition to Find Ease as a Female Entrepreneur

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Beating "Busy": How to Use Your Intuition to Find Ease as a Female Entrepreneur

Sometimes, as women entrepreneurs, we believe that our businesses are all about just taking ANY ACTION. Action, Action, Action, Busy, Busy, Busy.

But then we look up, and the day is gone. We're totally depleted, and we don't know where the time went or what we accomplished.

Read more to learn how to use your Intuition to find ease and save time, energy and your precious sanity as a female entrepreneur.

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3 Tips to Beat New Business Owner Overwhelm + Take Control of Your Time [+Free Guide!]

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Routine. Schedule. Daily System. 

Me-OW! Those are sexy words, aren't they? 

Have you barfed yet? Or do these words make you feel as if you've been snuggled in a warm, soothing blanket? 

If you're the former... you're more like me.

I fall a little bit more into the creative category. I used to think I was boring if I was "on a schedule".

Where's the spontaneity?

Where's the adventure?

How am I supposed to express myself fully if I'm totally stifled by schedules and plans?!

Why don't you understand me, oh plan-obsessed friends of mine?!

Yes, I was that person. But now I'm not.

Having a *flexible* schedule can actually be liberating creatively and can allow you more freedom. And... it's kind of essential if you're a work from home mom, like I am. 

Let me explain to you what I mean here, because I can sense you rolling your eyes. 

Before I had my son, I resisted setting a schedule in all ways possible. It's likely because I'm a freer soul that likes to explore, and as I've grown, I've learned the greatest gift we can give anyone is the ability to express themselves fully.

I still do feel a little bit schedule-resistant. It's why I still don't fit the 9-5 day job mold status quo. (Nothing wrong if you do.) I still want the flexibility to work where I want to work (Bali, anyone? Or check out our recent travels to Italy!)

This is my little guy, Finley, showing the camera his toes. This was about 12 seconds before he grabbed a chunk of my hair and started pulling. 

This is my little guy, Finley, showing the camera his toes. This was about 12 seconds before he grabbed a chunk of my hair and started pulling. 

I also have always known I would be a mom. (I now have an 18-month-old adorable little boy) AND a thriving online coaching business. It's what I'm good at, and I enjoy both things deeply - motherhood and having a fulfilling career where I can impact the world in two wonderful ways.

I want to live life on my terms - traveling, going for walks in the mornings, hiking in the mountains on a Tuesday morning, taking my son to mom and tot classes... I want all of that, AND my own successful business where I can change the world person by person.

And I have ALL of those things.

(You can, too, so don't even start those self-defeating thoughts.)

 

Once you have a baby, or work a full time job, AND start running your own business, it's mui importante to create a *flexible* and personalized schedule and routine... which I learned the hard way through trial and error.

The last thought you want is to have the "what do I do right NOW in this moment to build my business? What is THE #1 thing I should be doing?"

A few tips I've picked up from mentors and fab coaches on the way...

  • Consistency and Persistence lead to business success. (Anyone who's worked in marketing and sales knows this is a cornerstone, and my coach preaches this as well.)
  • Implement a schedule that serves your personal life as the priority (NOT work) so that you're better taken care of, you're better able to serve your clients, you're more available to listen to your intuition, and less available to overwhelm. You'll make the best decisions possible and do what you love with whom you love when you want to do it... because it comes first.
  • Don't waste time on the business activities that don't matter to you. Schedule only the activities that are income-generating for your business.
  • Stop being "busy" - the bad kind of busy that sucks your time and energy and leaves you feeling drained and all "what did I even get done today!?" Doesn't that feeling just suck?
  • Become fuller, more expansive in time and energy - instead of depleted, overwhelmed and stressed.

There is a saying in our industry that I have whole-heartedly adopted:

quote busy is bad for business banburnout

If you're too busy, working yourself to death, not having the freedom and adventure you desire in your life... then you're running your business wrong.

Ouch. I know. I have BEEN THERE and I too got the loving smackdown from my own coach a while back. 

Being that "busy" means you're likely spending a lot of time and energy on the wrong tasks, and you want to spend time only on what activities generate income or increase happiness and expand your energy.

(I know this income-generating part seems difficult to figure out in the beginning, but it really isn't super difficult, and it's one of those things I help my clients with.)

The Ban Burnout Fix?

Create a SCHEDULE for yourself and your family, and things may start to look up. It will take some tweaking, but you can get there, ladies! 

This will help you get all of the steps in place to create that schedule and everything else you need in your business.

Download my FREE Guide: The Freedom Formula to Stop Struggling and Start Thriving in life and business. There's an excellent exercise (plus more!) to help you really maximize your time and energy so you can live with more adventure and freedom... and less overwhelm and stress. 

Here are the top 3 tips for creating your bosslady, successful entrepreneur/ mompreneur schedule:

  1. Schedule in what you LOVE doing first, your personal life non-negotiables (family, friends, self care, wellness, leisure) and WHEN you'll be doing it. In pen. It's non-negotiable. Morning walk? You bet. Time for happy hour on Thursday? Absolutely. Barre? F*ck Yeah! Get it? Okay, your turn. What is non-negotiable makes your heart happy I want to do this all of the time in your life?
  2. Look at the time you have left over. That is the time that you can use for your business. Leave 5 hours in your business for your creative time. Schedule your other essential, income-generating business activities in then. Nothing else.
  3. Once you've scheduled in both, if you feel overwhelmed - pick the top 5 things you dislike the most out of those activities, and REMOVE THEM. No questions asked. No judgements made. You do NOT need permission to use your time and energy efficiently. Just do it. Liberate yourself! Your turn. Go. Don't feel bad. There are NO judgements here.

BONUS TIP: is there a LOT that you don't like doing or aren't good at falling into your schedule? It may be time to delegate and automate even more! Stay tuned for my next blog post where I'll talk more about that. (Plus, you'll get more updates and awesome tips from me when you sign up for my email list. I don't spam b/c, I hate spam and believe we should, obviously, maximize our time. Promise.)

So... how are you feeling after that? That was the short and sweet version of how I like to manage my time and how I finally created a great schedule that works for us.

Now you have your schedule. You have your opportunity to be consistent and persistent. You have your opportunity to bring your best self to the table because you're well taken care of. 

Share your schedule wins in the comments below!

P.S. Don't forget to download the FREE Guide: The Freedom Formula to Stop Struggling and Start Thriving in life and business. It will greatly help you out!

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Not Your Typical Advice: 7 Ways To Take Care of Yourself

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Not Your Typical Advice: 7 Ways To Take Care of Yourself

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One the most difficult parts of being an entrepreneur, or any type of working adult, is balance (whatever the heck that means, right?) Raise your hand if you've ever held back from making some sort of big change that could have been beneficial in the end(like quitting a job that is awful), because of a fear of letting other areas of your life move out of focus more for a while.

Obviously from one of my favorite shows, Playing House! Source: buzzfeed.com

Obviously from one of my favorite shows, Playing House! Source: buzzfeed.com

There are more pressures on women than ever before, too - to be good moms/wives/girlfriends, to be thin, to look a certain way or dress a certain way, or to act a certain way. I mean, how often do we suffer from serious body-comparisson hangover?

For whatever reason, we tend to let our self care go before anything else. When we're going through a major change we can let our health get outta whack. The physical effects of not sleeping/eating/exercising can come in all forms depending on the person. Here's some of what I experience when I'm not taking care of myself well. See anything you recognize?:

  • Migraines (if you have never had one of these before, you don't want to.)
  • Tight muscles + back probs + severe muscle aches
  • Bloated + heavy feeling in my stomach
  • Heart palpitations from being anxious + stressed
  • Feel + look tired (sallow skin, paleness, under eye bags, feeling forgetful/fuzzy, lack of focus)

Nobody got time for that.

Taking care of your self has to be a priority. It's difficult to be good at what you want to be good at, to serve people well as a coach, to focus at work, and it's hard to be a great parent/spouse/family member. 

Here are some ways that you can do that AND not lose sight of the big things you want to accomplish, and the people you would love to spend time with. 

1. Understand that you're unique and enough just the way you ARE. What you want is possible for you, and You're Worth It. Someone else is doing exactly what you want to do, right? They're out there doing yoga or prancercising or whatever makes them feel great - which means it's DOABLE FOR YOU. Just understand that first before you put too much pressure on yourself to look/be/dress a certain way, ok? (If you don't know what prancercise is, it's kind of essential knowledge these days. Watch the video.)

2. Don't ever feel guilty for taking time to take care of yourself. James Altucher talks about this in his amazing book, Choose Yourself, how if he lets one part of his life slip, everything else in his life is affected. There are a ton of health + wellness coaches out there who say the same. Whatever effort you can make today to take care of yourself, it's worth it. You don't need anyone's permission, and you don't need anyone's judgement (especially your own!) You dig?

3. Be open to the possibility that your commitment to your own self care and well being may actually be a great example and source of inspiration for the people around you. 

Many people put exercise and eating well on the back burner when things heat up at work, and I know I've gone through periods where I did - before and after husband and baby boy came along. We feel guilty, we think other people will judge us, we think it makes us selfish, we think... a lot of crazy things.

I used to feel guilty for taking time for myself. A lot of women feel like it means less time with your babies, less time cleaning, less time working. Sometimes it feels "selfish". I get it. Having my own business that is now taking off, I'll admit that it's really difficult some days to eat well or work out (mostly now because I'm so inspired and have a million and one ideas and have amazing clients to work with!) But I make effort to stay on track.

You've gotta take care of yourself, or you can't really take care of anyone else. How inspiring is the "always busy" and "always burnt out" woman? How inspiring is "resentful mom"?

If you need some inspiration, or permission (which you shouldn't have to ask for, btw), watch this video. It's so cool to see how we can impact people around us by taking care of ourselves.

[QUEUE: TEARS FROM THE DEPTHS OF MY SOUL.]

4. Pick ONE form of exercise every day that will make you feel good mentally, emotionally and physically. Everyone is different. You may love yoga, or jogging, or a mellow walk outside, or you may love super intense workouts like Insanity (which I LOVE!) or Spin class (also love).

I listen to my intuition and choose my workout based depending on how I'm feeling that day, but I always take my little guy for a walk for about an hour in addition. It's non-negotiable because it's good for him and me. When I don't do this, I'm anxious and don't focus the same way. So rain or shine, warm or cold, we go for a walk.

I also have some of my best ideas and often gain clarity during daily walks. What's that about?

5. Eat to fuel your self. That isn't a typo. The self encompasses your mind, body and soul. #preach What you put into your body affects the mind and soul (how you operate, think and feel). When we eat better, we feel better. Don't you? 

It's hard to focus when you don't have energy because you had a bottle of red wine and a bucket of sweet potato fries last night. (If you tell me you haven't been there, LIES!)

6. Treat your body + mind as one entity. I used to suffer from migraines, and the neurologist I started seeing in Denver actually recommended I adopt this understanding of my body. A lot of people really think about their body as being different parts, so when I started getting migraines again for the first time in like five years I went to a neurologist. That's okay in many cases. There are specialists out there for a reason.

However, I had somehow overlooked something crucial; I wasn't looking at everything I was doing as a whole, as potential causes which is detrimental to a life-long migraine sufferer. My new neurologist in Colorado has a much more whole-picture look, and he asked all about my food/nutrition, sleep, allergies or stress at all as potential causes for my migraines.

He also recommended I play this game with myself: how many nutrient dense foods and ONLY nutrient dense foods, can you take in every day? This made me focus on eating more whole foods over processed things. I started cooking and stopped eating at restaurants so often. And I cut the drinking.

Believe me, I love craft beers and a glass of malbec, but I've cut down. Do I still go out to brunch or make (and eat) the occasional pan of brownies? You're damn right I do. Just not all the time.

P.S. Two of my all-time favorite recipes are perfect for Fall, and one of them is pretty healthy (as in uses mostly whole foods and spices). The other is a desert! Sign up below to get the recipe and some other extras.

7. Do something to relieve stress. Journal for a few minutes, meditate, read a book, obviously I love going for walks. Pick something and do it.

How are you going to get started? What activities or recipes really help you stay healthy and on course when you're super busy? Tell us in the comments!

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