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Busy Doing What?

We're on an extended trip visiting family in Chicago. We live in Denver, and most of our family lives in or near Chicago. Usually our visits are about a week at most which leaves us really scrambling to see everyone and do everything, and often... we don't see or do everything that we want to, and I always used to leave feeling exhausted... and a little guilty. One of my major items on My List of Ultimate Adventures (P.S. Do you have one of these? If not, you probably should!) is to spend more time with my family and friends and not feel rushed, tired or guilty at the end. When we feel rushed, we're more likely not to enjoy the experience fully.

For the longest time, I couldn't seem to make enough time for the visits. I was on everyone else's schedule - my boss's, my company's, my family's, my friends'... my Ego's. I had my priorities way out of whack... and I felt it everywhere. I was stressed, sad, guilty, lonely, resentful way more than I cared to admit.

Then my own Success Coach gave me a wake up call. "What's stopping you from spending time with the people that you love, from honoring your highest priority or deepest desire?" This was one of those GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY moments that was the definition of enlightening. 

God, how I needed that reality check. When we don't spend time doing things that make us happy (Hello! Traveling! Reading! Watching Bones!), being with people we love, or owning our thoughts AND actions, we're left totally to the wolf. And I mean the big, bad one that lives inside you that feeds on worry, negativity, anxiety, doubt and fear. That wolf doesn't need to eat you alive, but he/she would flipping love to. I'd been a voluntary meal for that wolf for a long time when I finally got my arse in gear and took myself off the table. 

Fast forward a year, and here we are. We are only in week 2 of our 6-week stay in Chicago, and all I can say is that we've been Busy! I mean, like more busy than just "I have a toddler: I'm always busy!" But, a GOOD kind of busy for once! And it's all about prioritizing and making your desires happen, and then owning Time and your Thoughts. My two Big T's that my clients learn about in Success Coaching. We're visiting friends, going to the lake for about a week, enjoying the city, going for walks every day, eating well, and enjoying our time here. 

You have the ability to prioritize and then work toward making this ownership of time happen. You can plan the trips you want to plan, spend time with the people you want to see, do the things you want to do with your Time. We are given opportunities to take action, to make our deepest dreams and desires come to fruition every day. We just need to take action on them. I know that sounds like some fluffy B.S. I used to feel that way, too. But once you hit bottom, and you realize you have to be willing to accept help in the form of a Mentor/Coach and new way of thinking and then you start practicing it, you realize you weren't living fully until you started it. Being in control of your life is a reality within anyone.

How are you working toward manifesting your desires today? If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, like you'll never get there... tell me. My major goal is to make one less person feel that way every day. 

"Every day expand in abundance, love and success as you inspire others to do the same." - The Big Leap -

With Love and A Step Forward,

 - Allison