2. Believe that you are enough. You alone are worth whatever it is that you desire. Yes, I know it sounds all fluffy, but being in the right mindset is really the best thing you can do for yourself when you are preparing to go through a large shift in your life. You are worth the difficulties, the doubts, the wins and loses. You’re worth the effort and the risk. You alone - you’re enough. It’s possible for you to start a successful business. It’s possible for you to have a career you love. If I could do it at my lowest of lows, you can do it now. Whatever you want, there is someone out there who has it. That means it’s possible for you. Believe me - I didn’t think I “had it”… and actually people told me I didn’t.
3. Get into a GROWTH mindset. What this means, essentially, is that you have to constantly look for ways to expand - in knowledge, in skill set, in openness, in understanding… just expand yourself. Let’s break this down a little further. Growing in knowledge is most useful to you if you think of information as your friend, and if you look for ways to learn as much as possible about the areas that interest you. Same for the skill sets you want to expand. Do you enjoy practicing that skill? Is it essential to what you want to do? Then cultivate it! This is one of the things I talk with my clients about all the time.
4. Figure out what you want to DO, and who you want to BE. I have a whole process to get career clarity in my new group program that's accepting members now. It's called the 90 Day Roadmap to Career Clarity LIVE group. There is a lot of focus on clarity and figuring out what you want to do next and how to get there, but I'll touch on a bit here.
The best way to get super clear is to ask yourself this: What is one thing you would do - spend all of your time on - even if you weren't paid for it?
But even that question can be a bit big for some people to start with. Here are a few more. Sit down in a quiet place with a pen and notebook, and journal out answers to the following.
- List out the qualities you value most. You want to LIVE and WORK with purpose.
- What activities do you enjoy now? If you had to pick THREE?
- What did you enjoy when you were a child that continued with you in ways? For example, I used to love to listen to stories, to write and to draw. I still love doing those things which gave me a hint as to what I should be doing in my career - integrating those things in.
- Think about how + where you work best (in an office? with a lot of people? alone? at home? Solopreneur? Team member? Giving direction? Or Taking direction?)
- Think about what topics interest you and which ones would be worth exploring further into a career - write down 10. Then pick the top THREE.
Focusing on what you enjoy learning about and doing is the cornerstone to having a career you love. That is always the starting point.
5. Get your Plan B in place long before you quit. It may feel impossible to get on the road toward starting a new business or looking for a new job when you’re still working at your old job. But, there is definite upside in having the income from your old job. You can use many of the previously mentioned steps as things you can do while you're still at your current 9-to-5.
Here's a little bonus... TBH, once I decided I was going to quit my job, it actually made it EASIER to go to work. I started looking at it like, “well, i’ll make the most of this because hey, I don’t have to continue doing it that much longer!” I went back to being myself just a little bit, by knowing I had control of the situation.
Extra Tip: This may seem like rocket science... but whatever you do, DO NOT start slacking off or "saying your piece" at work. You will likely want to have those work contacts after you leave. It's always great to leave on the BEST terms possible, so continue to be your kind, wonderful self, go into work, finish your projects on time and be the best colleague possible.
6. Start planning financially. You have to take a good hard look at your financial situation before you leave your job. Do you have an emergency fund? What do you need to cut back on? How much do you need to save per month? What’s the budget you MUST have to make this change happen for you?
Most importantly - what are you willing to do financially to make this dream happen? For us, we bought a 1-bedroom 650 square foot home AFTER we had a baby. Why? Because we knew I may eventually leave my job, or take a break at least, and we wanted to still be able to travel and put our son in school, and go out to eat, and go skiing... all things we love. So we bought a smaller home to begin with. I’m not saying you have to make the exact same decision. Some people need more space to spread out, and if you live in the burbs you may be able to get more house for the same amount we paid in Denver. This was the area we were willing to give a little in… and actually there is far less to clean, and we have less crap now. It’s a win-win for me.
So decide what you need to do to make it happen - and just know that if you’re truly going after something you love - you probably won’t really miss whatever you compromise on.
7. Set a deadline for your last day... even if it's months in advance and you don't tell your boss until 2 weeks beforehand. Then mark it on your (personal!) calendar so you stick to it. Believe me, it’s easier to have a feasible deadline if you know about your finances, and visa versa. It’s easier to go to work if you know your end date is approaching, too. I felt lighter once I knew I was leaving. My one regret was that I let the deadline linger a bit too long, which made it more difficult to tie up projects and feel good about where things were at.
Counting down the days until FREEDOM (from any 9-5, anywhere) for me, was like CHRISTMAS. And if you know me, you know I LOVE CHRISTMAS!
8. Get your Tribe together. I knew I wanted to get into a career path where I would help people, and I’m super passionate about helping women live better and do what they love. So the natural fit for me was coaching of some sort, but I didn’t know this right away… and even after I quit my job, I had no idea how to get started as a coach or how to start my own business. (I recommend you start getting some more pieces in place than I did BEFORE you quit.)
So immediately after I quit, I hired my own Life Coach, and then joined a group program for women, like me, who were ready to be coaches after that. I had to do the mindset work, quite frankly, to get into a good enough place mentally to be able to help other people and to be in business for myself.
And that’s when everything turned around. I started refining what type of coach I wanted to be and how to help my clients. I started getting more clients because I was actually doing a better job helping them, and because I was more confident.
I started truly believing that the things I wanted were possible for me. I don't know if I had ever done that before.
This experience in the group program I was (and am still!) a part of, is the reason I created my own signature group program for women who are ready to make a major career change, quit their job or become entrepreneurs. It’s called the 90 Day Roadmap to Career Clarity LIVE group program. I highly recommend joining a group, like this one. You NEED a group of women to help you through the immense change you're going to experience - to keep you on track, and to lift you up when you have skeptics in your life who put their doubts on you.
9. Take care of yourself. It’s all wonderful to do things for your family or your friends, or your job, or whatever other obligations, but honestly, if you don’t practice any form of self care, if you aren’t in a mindset that you must constantly grow as a person, if you don't believe that what you want is possible… you’re actually doing everyone around you that you care about a disservice.
So I chose to get the guidance I needed...
And I’ve never been in a better place because I finally got the courage to quit doing something that was wrong for me.
Those are the major steps.
I want you to feel this good, I want you to have a career and business that's right for you. I don’t want you to spend your life in a career track, corporate grind, 9-5, on everyone else's schedule type of thing... that isn’t fulfilling or exciting for you. You should be happy and excited to get up and go to work every day. No, it’s not all sunshine and daisies all the time, and having your own business can be a lot of hours… but it should be fun and light you up at least 70% of the time.
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