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How You Can Be The Santa Of Your Adulthood


How You Can Be The Santa Of Your Adulthood

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You get an amazing idea, and you're all "Holy Hell: this is going to be amazing." Maybe what you want to design is a new app, an e-course, a line of handmade kids clothes, a book, a company, a solution to someone's problem. So you start getting into this high. You begin formulating the plans to execute this idea. You're totally immersed in this brilliant idea and how it's going to flipping transform your life, and other people's lives... and then it hits. 

It's that voice. It's back again.

This is going to be so much work. What if you put all of this time, money and energy into this and it doesn't work? What if people hate it? You'll just embarrass yourself if you fail. Was this a stupid idea in the first place? Yeah, probably... I'll just let it go and go back to doing everything exactly the same. Why risk it? It's just easier to not think about it anymore.

Raise your hand if you've been here before. I know I have, over and over and over.



But then that voice comes back and tells you it's stupid. If you don't believe in yourself, you may end up squashing your brilliant ideas and solutions to the problems in the world before you even begin.

Did you know that you have the ability to choose your thoughts?”

You believed in Santa Claus for 8 years. You can't see Santa. You can't smell him. You have obviously never touched the real Santa (besides taking cute photos on one of his "helpers'" knees in the middle of the mall when you were 5.) You have doubtless heard many stories about him, and you believed in him so deeply and intently for a long time that there was no way he wasn't real. Remember that feeling of believing in someone you couldn't see?

You were able to do this - believe in this unseeable, un-feelable, intangible being - for years. 

So how do we cultivate that ability to have unwavering faith in something amazing, like ourselves?

You've got to be your own Santa Claus. 

Not the creepy Santa from the mall who smelled like cheese. I think we called him "Santa's Helper." 

You want to have this feeling with yourself... warm, fuzzy, trusting, believing, everything is right with the world type of goodness. 

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You see and feel your own transformation internally every day. You know of your own countless amazing experiences, abilities, and life learnings. You know how far you've come in your life. So why aren't you able to believe in yourself, and in your own ability to have great ideas, to create things that matter, to learn and to improve the world?


So how do we do that? Some ideas that may help you begin to trust yourself and your own abilities again:

An example of one affirmation I have written down on a sticky note in my house. I also have this as an alarm on my phone for mid-afternoon, when my energy tends to dip.

An example of one affirmation I have written down on a sticky note in my house. I also have this as an alarm on my phone for mid-afternoon, when my energy tends to dip.

  • Connect with your WHY. Why is this idea in my head? Why is it important to me? What do I really desire to get from this at the heart of it all? What's the purpose
  • FOLLOW THROUGH on your projects and ideas that you are really excited about. Start small and then work your way up.
  • Split your bigger ideas into smaller goals.
  • Set a DATE for when you wish to accomplish for your big idea. Write it on a calendar and hang it on the wall. Put it in your phone. 
  • Flip the switch. Example: turn "You could never do this." into "I can totally do this!"
  • Stop giving away your time and energy like it's free candy. It's NOT free candy. It's precious. (This doesn't mean we are mean to people, or spiteful, or unhelpful in entirety. This simply means that we have boundaries and don't say YES to any requests when you mean NO. Just say No.)
  • Write down your affirmations (all of the thoughts you have that you must flip the switch on) on sticky notes and put them around the house. Having things visually available helps. Or you could even get some affirmations put on artwork, like this one.


  • Distance yourself from or put up your shield around people that aren't exactly helpful to you. (Note: the worriers, the skeptics, the people that make you feel bad when you talk about what you wish to accomplish. Yes this is difficult. YES, it matters.)
  • When you're ready to execute an idea, find a partner, or a coach, or join a group that can help you stay accountable. These partners can help you find new ways to execute on your idea and can encourage and inspire you when you're feeling stuck.
  • Find a way to take care of yourself. Eat better. Exercise. Meditate. Get outside. Get more sleep. Taking care of yourself allows you to trust and believe MORE in yourself. 
  • Create a home that fuels your success.
  • Read Choose Yourself, by James Altucher
  • Watch/listen to YouTube videos by Abraham Hicks (a favorite.)
  • Read this children's book called What Do You Do With An Idea?  It's one of my favorites! 

Lastly: believe in what you can't see, just as much as what you can see.

The more you do, the more awesome ideas will come to you, and you'll have more ability to follow through on those ideas. You'll begin to know what to go after and what not to, and you just may finally squash that freakin' pesky voice that told you it was stupid. The more you believe, the more you succeed, the more you feel amazingly full of faith in yourself... the more you'll create. 

So believe in yourself with unwavering faith just the way many of us believed in Santa Claus when we were younger! Believe in your truths, the power of your stories, the power of your presence, and what you STAND FOR.

And now that you believe in yourself, you can totally leave yourself some cookies and milk, Santa ;)

Believing in you!

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Speaking Truth: One of my deepest desires...

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Speaking Truth: One of my deepest desires...

The legendary logo in New Buffalo, Michigan.

The legendary logo in New Buffalo, Michigan.

It is August already! How does this happen!? 

For me August is all about the beach and the sense of vacation - whether lake or ocean. We don't exactly have many of those in Colorado (land-locked state), so every time we're back in Chicago, I try to make a trip up to Michigan for a weekend. FYI - if you've never stopped at Redamak's in New Buffalo, MI, you're missing out! 

There is this happy place in me that is always activated deep down when I think of summers in Michigan. But there's an even happier place for me than any beach or cabin: Pennellwood Resort. My family and several close family friends went to Pennellwood for a week every summer for over 15 years... until it closed while I was in college. 

A photo from way, way back of the dining hall, horseshoes and shuffleboard tournaments. 

There was something absolutely magical about the Dirty Dancing-style resort in southern Michigan.

It wasn't that it appealed to me when I was a kid; it was still one of my favorite places through high school, through college... I always looked forward to going to Pennellwood. I wanted to work there in the summer one day, like the waitresses I idolized. I loved the musty old cabins and the worn wood in the dining hall entrance, and how everything smelled like cedar. I loved the sound of the shuffleboard and ping pong table. I loved kayaking on the river or hiking in the creek in the woods.

I wanted to have my wedding there, and when it closed, I didn't want to have a wedding at all anymore, because I could never have it at Pennellwood. It may sound crazy, but I love it to this day, even though the cabins have been torn down, the rec hall is gone, the dock is roped off and the pools are empty.

Now, this may sound sad or crazy to some, but one of my deepest, utmost desires is to one day re-open Pennellwood - to make it once again the magical place that it was. 

This is a deep, constant desire of mine. No matter where I am, or what I want, or who I'm with, or what I'm doing... this desire remains in the back of my mind. I kept telling myself that it was childish for a long time, and tried to push it away... but with the transformation of myself that I've gone through over the past year, I've realized that what I loved about Pennellwood is totally worth sharing. It was the sense of community, the feeling of happiness from everyone there, the shared knowledge that we all loved this magical place so damn much that we cried every year at the last night's campfire when the staff sang, "I don't really wanna go home now." Most of all, I loved the feeling of freedom found there, with friends old and new.

I want other people to feel that happiness that is brought by that little place in Michian. I want it so badly, that one day, I know it will happen. 

So this is my confession, another step in the process of manifesting a deep desire, is to say it outright to the world with emotion and faith that your words will become truth one day. I believe in my heart that this will come true, and I desire it enough that the How isn't important yet.

What is your deepest passion today? What one desire is always in your mind?

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