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9 Ways To Get Your House In Order, And Let It Fuel Your Success!

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9 Ways To Get Your House In Order, And Let It Fuel Your Success!

Hello!

When you're ready to start making a lasting, impactful career change, you need to start with some steps toward self-evolution. This is extremely crucial to making the right career change, and being totally ready for the new, wonderful direction your life will take.

Today, we’re going to start with getting your home in great shape. It's the part most people cringe at - especially you mamas out there. I know this is super hard; it was difficult for me to straighten up and organize when I was a Single Lady, and now I have a small destroyer (I mean, toddler), my wonderful husband AND a dog. I love them all! But I’ve had to find a way to simplify and beautify our home so that it works for all of us and so that our surroundings reflect who we are, and who we strive to be. 

So, we begin with my list of 9 WAYS TO GET YO’ HOUSE IN ORDER. 

With Love,

Allison

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1.  Simplification Cornerstone: Whatever You Bring In Must Elicit Joy

You may not know this about me, but I am a simplicity NUT. I didn’t use to be that way. I actually used to be quite the person of excess… as in excess stuff. Everywhere. I came from a mindset that shopping was a way to be happy and fulfilled (even though I always felt guilty about shopping for myself afterward), and I’m not going to totally argue with the fact that, yes, I still have some major shopping urges that get filled every once in a while. Hello! It’s almost FALL which means booties and sweaters! 

The problem here is that I would go on shopping sprees, buy things I thought I loved (but really didn’t), and after a while, those things wouldn’t bring the joy that they initially had. So then I would go shopping again, and this cycle would start over. Meanwhile, I was coming home and finding that I didn’t have room for these things that I thought I loved. And they would sit in the back of my closet after a bit. 

But, I digress. Now, the thing with accumulating a lot of stuff is that it can make life a little difficult, for many reasons. Having too much stuff can cause: 

  • Decision anxiety… I have so many options! What do I wear?! What do I cook for dinner?
  • Guilt… I bought four pairs of shoes and two of them have barely been worn, and now they’re sitting there unused by anyone. What a waste!
  • Anger… You spent HOW much on that Roomba when we have a perfectly great vacuum?!
  • Frustration with lack of space… How are we possibly going to fit that 62” TV in our living room? Our 40” barely fits on that wall!). 

And that’s just the beginning.

The Solution: Anything you purchase for yourself or your home must bring you joy. This is a cornerstone of Marie Kondo’s general philosophy. I’m sure you’ve heard all about her, but if you haven’t, watch this video. She is the guru of tidy!

This philosophy really came in handy for my family when we bought our first home in Denver. At the time, we were determined to live more simply. We bought one side of a 1900 duplex in Denver’s Historic Baker neighborhood - close enough to walk to everything around the neighborhood(train, parks, shops, cafes, restaurants, bars, library, book shops, etc), but enough space for the four of us to live happily (dog included), AND we have a backyard. WIN. However, the home is only 650 square feet and being a MUCH older home, there was ONE closet. So we did what any sane new parents would do, and we had our own Tiny House Nation/Marie Kondo-inspired purge of 2014. Which brings me to my next point… 

2.   The Great Purge of 2014: Get Rid Of Everything That Does NOT Bring Joy

During our purge, we evaluated every. single. thing. that we owned. This was a purge that took a lot of time for us, to be honest, and it is something that we continue to do when the seasons change. You don’t have to do it all in one weekend. 

Keeping around a lot of clutter and excess stuff makes it hard to focus on what you need to focus on: improving yourself and getting that job or making that career change that you really, really desire.

When we keep excess shit around from our past, we hold back from becoming who we are. That stuff takes up room for who we’re meant to be. It takes up space and keeps us stuck. Wouldn’t you rather free up space for the new you, and the things that elicit joy? 

Tip: start with things that you aren’t super attached to in the first place, and don't touch anything of your family's. They need to do the purge on their belongings on their own.

When we were faced with the reality of going from a 2000 sqft home to a 650 sqft home, we really evaluated furniture, lamps, clothing, kitchenware, old toiletries, junk drawers, linens, shoes, artwork, paper work/files… EVERYTHING. If you start with things you aren’t super attached to, it just gets easier to purge from there. By the time you get to mementos and things that have more meaning, it feels a little easier because you’re already groovin'. 

Best Part: donate or sell the items you’re parting with. Someone will love them and be grateful for them, and they’ll fulfill their purpose. One of the best ways we can express gratitude is to donate what we no longer need or want to people who do have a want and a need for it.

3.   Simplified Kitchen, Better Health

A major area that people neglect when they get their house in order, is to evaluate their FOOD. Food is another thing that you bring into your home (regularly!) What we eat affects our mood, body and energy. Having a ton of choices can also elicit some decision anxiety.

If you’re doing all of this wonderful work on your mental and emotional health, why wouldn’t you want to improve your physical health, too?

Purge food that’s been sitting around that does not elicit joy or won’t make you feel good. Get rid of the food that makes you feel really awful after you eat it. C’mon… you know what it is. For me, I love inhaling a bag of Ruffles in one sitting. I always, without fail, feel awful afterward. Bloated for two days, sluggish, and it always ruins my workout to get cramps or feel dehydrated, which is how chips with a ton of salt and no nutritional value will make you feel. 

Here’s the fun part of this, the things that are beautiful, natural, make you feel good, the things you want visible so you’re more likely to pick them to eat, can be displayed. In fact, display them beautifully if you can, in a lovely bowl that you love on your counter or table. Get some fruits and veggies that can sit out without spoiling. Add some color to the room with them. And, bonus, every time you get a craving for something, you’ve got some SIMPLE, healthier choices that will help your mind, body and energy right in front of you. 

Donate the food you’re parting with to a homeless shelter. Someone out there needs it.

4.   Organize Your Life

I will admit, this isn’t my forte! It’s important, nonetheless. Now that you have more space for the things you have left, you can relish the ability to see everything you need easily with a quickly opened door or drawer. Marie Kondo has some amazing tips for folding in her book, and I also love reading tips in ApartmentTherapy.com. Here are some of my favorites:

My favorite series, Harry Potter, displayed on our mantle proudly.

My favorite series, Harry Potter, displayed on our mantle proudly.

  • Use the travel fold (or roll, rather) to make clothing easier to see in your drawers
  • Fold socks one inside another so there's always a pair
  • Only keep and fold linens and sheets that match your decor and make you feel good. Use this amazing tip for folding your fitted sheets by Martha Stewart. 
  • Hang the clothing you love in your closet by color and sleeve/pant length. 
  • Organize your fridge so that the things you want to eat more of (healthy, whole foods) are visible.
  • Color coordinate books, or organize them by series or author in different areas.

Organize things that you desire to keep that make you feel great. By the way, you can actually display some of your clothing or shoes which really comes in handy if you don't have a closet, like us. (see below!)

5.   Bring the Outdoors In

The IKEA PAX wardrobes I painted and added hardware to, and one of our favorite plants. 

The IKEA PAX wardrobes I painted and added hardware to, and one of our favorite plants. 

This one is super simple, but it will make all the difference. You’ve purged your belongings to only include items that fill you with joy. You’ve committed to only bringing in things that will bring joy to your home. Now, commit yourself to bringing in one more thing that will be sure to elicit joy when chosen wisely. 

Adopt some plants. There should be at least one beautiful, green or colorful LIVING thing in each room of your home. Select plants that make you feel alive, ones that you’d be proud to display in your home and that you’ll lovingly care for.

Plants are wonderful for mental health. They clean the air in your home. They liven up any room and can make guests feel more comfortable.

6.   Display Your Joy-Inducing Items

This is my FAVORITE part. You’ve done the purge and committed to respecting your home enough to only keep things that bring joy. Now you can select how to display those things.

Display artwork that makes you happy. Hang jewelry on display that makes you feel beautiful or holds sentimental value. Even a blouse or favorite scarf hanging in the right spot can add some color. 

Some of my joysperation is photos of my fam and mementos from our travels. Some photos are in antique frames, and other items in collages. I also love to read, and there are many of our favorite books displayed in our home in various places. 

The books I didn’t love or couldn’t bring myself to read past a few chapters were donated to the Denver Library and Goodwill. Someone, somewhere will love them and find them inspiring.

7.   Create a Vision Board And Hang It Up

Being in a growth mindset is so much easier if you have a Vision Board to center your focus. The purpose of a Vision Board is to bring your desires to life. 

This is a FUN activity! You'll want my free guide with 10 Tips to Create Your Vision Board (which you can download and keep right by your side during the fun!)

Create your board as if it’s a piece of art that deserves a place in your home. Hang it somewhere in plain sight as a constant reminder of what you desire and who you strive to be, what you strive to accomplish. The items and visuals on this board should always bring joy and inspiration to you, and show you who you are becoming.

What will your board entail? Where will it go? 

8.  Create A Simple, Lovely Outdoor Space

There is something calming about being outside. My favorite time of day is super early in the morning - like 5am. Everything is quiet but the birds are waking up. There is this calm feeling in the air. Your favorite time could be any time during the day or later during sunset. It’s really up to you.

I used to love to sit on my back porch early in the morning with my coffee, but my biggest regret is not creating a space that was more inviting. My deck is in plain sunlight all morning and for most of the day, so it’s really difficult to go out there in the summer without having a heat stroke or burning your feet. If I could do it again, I would put up an umbrella, or better, built the treelike I’ve wanted to build for shade, and get the table and chairs or floor pillows. 

 

9.  Claiming Your Time (And Sanity)

One of the best things I ever did for myself was to hire someone to come and clean house for us once a week. I used Handy (GREAT App!!!) to book people who could come whenever I needed help with house cleaning, laundry, cleaning out the fridge, etc. 

There was an incredibly important reason to do this: I wanted to have a successful career and to be the best person, mom and wife that I could. I felt, personally, that I couldn’t be that person if I was spending valuable time cleaning that I could have spent with my family or on my budding business. 

You don’t have to break the bank. Get someone to help you get a few hours back in your day, even if it’s every once in a while. I promise, you won’t regret it… and it kind of makes you feel a little bit more successful, doesn’t it? 

 

Did you love the tips in this post? What would you add to it?

 

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30 Things You Can Do to Bust-A-Rut Today

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30 Things You Can Do to Bust-A-Rut Today

I recently read Choose Yourself by James Altucher, and it is one of my all-time favorite books because of the message he sends and the way he delivers it. There is a portion of the book where he gets pretty raw and talks about getting off the floor, or being at bottom, and this is at the beginning of the book because it needs to be addressed immediately.

I'm going to be pretty honest with you: I HAVE BEEN THERE. 

Before I became the much more confident person I am today, I went through a pretty rough patch. We'll call it a major quarter-life crisis. I had been laid off from a job I loved (Thanks a lot, 2008 recession!), and I'd moved halfway across the country to a city where I knew no one except my boyfriend at the time. Now, while this ended up being a great move for me, it was initially insanely lonely. My boyfriend and I were Fire and Ice: sounds great and exciting in theory... but in reality, they just don't "mesh well". I had found a new job, but it was full of bullies and people with toxic energy, and I didn't enjoy the work. To top it off, I had body image issues up the wazoo that I thought I'd dealt with but that I realized were still lingering on. I was lonely... and I was devastatingly depressed and angry. All of the time.

So one day, I slumped to the floor in my bathroom (gross), and I didn't get up for about 72 hours. I didn't eat. I maybe had a glass of water, from a dingy glass that had been in the bathroom for a month. (Also gross.) I had let everyone tell me what I should do, and how I should do it, and who I was or was expected to be as a person for SO LONG that I sank under the weight of everyone's expectations. I didn't even know myself anymore, or what I even wanted for myself. It was like that part in Eat, Pray, Love where Elizabeth Gilbert says "I didn’t want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.” 

I literally wanted to move away where no one would know me and my story could start over. This was a pretty huge "woe is me" moment. It was also when I finally realized that I had to learn how to care for and heal myself.

I'm telling you this because you need to know that if this is where you are - at bottom, on the floor - I HAVE BEEN THERE. You are not alone. And there is an important message for you here...

YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE YOURSELF. 

I'm giving you the green light to be a little bit selfish (in a GOOD way)! You have to choose to move forward. Choose to get up. Choose to treat yourself AND everyone else around you like the amazing people you/they are. Choose to do one thing today that will get you out of your rut. Then tomorrow, do two things. Just do one thing at a time and the change will happen. But you have to choose to make healing yourself, being the BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF NON-NEGOTIABLE, because you are really, truly the only one that can help yourself. And in being the best version of yourself, that is when you'll really impact other people in an amazing, inspiring way just by being you. 

If this is where you are right now, I'm giving you my personal list (for FREE!) of the top 30 Things I Did (and that YOU can do) to Break Out of Your Rut. I hope this list of ideas helps you as much as it helped me. Make doing that one thing per day non-negotiable, make healing and growing non-negotiable. 

P.S. - I have something new coming out within the next month!

It's an awesome NEW PROGRAM that I'm so excited to launch. It is going to be an awesome opportunity to experience some major self-transformation and bust out of your career rut. So stay tuned for more news on it soon!

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Busy Doing What?

We're on an extended trip visiting family in Chicago. We live in Denver, and most of our family lives in or near Chicago. Usually our visits are about a week at most which leaves us really scrambling to see everyone and do everything, and often... we don't see or do everything that we want to, and I always used to leave feeling exhausted... and a little guilty. One of my major items on My List of Ultimate Adventures (P.S. Do you have one of these? If not, you probably should!) is to spend more time with my family and friends and not feel rushed, tired or guilty at the end. When we feel rushed, we're more likely not to enjoy the experience fully.

For the longest time, I couldn't seem to make enough time for the visits. I was on everyone else's schedule - my boss's, my company's, my family's, my friends'... my Ego's. I had my priorities way out of whack... and I felt it everywhere. I was stressed, sad, guilty, lonely, resentful way more than I cared to admit.

Then my own Success Coach gave me a wake up call. "What's stopping you from spending time with the people that you love, from honoring your highest priority or deepest desire?" This was one of those GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY moments that was the definition of enlightening. 

God, how I needed that reality check. When we don't spend time doing things that make us happy (Hello! Traveling! Reading! Watching Bones!), being with people we love, or owning our thoughts AND actions, we're left totally to the wolf. And I mean the big, bad one that lives inside you that feeds on worry, negativity, anxiety, doubt and fear. That wolf doesn't need to eat you alive, but he/she would flipping love to. I'd been a voluntary meal for that wolf for a long time when I finally got my arse in gear and took myself off the table. 

Fast forward a year, and here we are. We are only in week 2 of our 6-week stay in Chicago, and all I can say is that we've been Busy! I mean, like more busy than just "I have a toddler: I'm always busy!" But, a GOOD kind of busy for once! And it's all about prioritizing and making your desires happen, and then owning Time and your Thoughts. My two Big T's that my clients learn about in Success Coaching. We're visiting friends, going to the lake for about a week, enjoying the city, going for walks every day, eating well, and enjoying our time here. 

You have the ability to prioritize and then work toward making this ownership of time happen. You can plan the trips you want to plan, spend time with the people you want to see, do the things you want to do with your Time. We are given opportunities to take action, to make our deepest dreams and desires come to fruition every day. We just need to take action on them. I know that sounds like some fluffy B.S. I used to feel that way, too. But once you hit bottom, and you realize you have to be willing to accept help in the form of a Mentor/Coach and new way of thinking and then you start practicing it, you realize you weren't living fully until you started it. Being in control of your life is a reality within anyone.

How are you working toward manifesting your desires today? If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, like you'll never get there... tell me. My major goal is to make one less person feel that way every day. Allison@AdventureKnocks.com 

"Every day expand in abundance, love and success as you inspire others to do the same." - The Big Leap -

With Love and A Step Forward,

 - Allison

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Expressing Gratitude

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Expressing Gratitude

 

We have welcomed so many great opportunities and experiences into our lives over the past month that I felt it was super important to express how thankful I am. Now, I'm usually a little bit quirky, but I felt that today was a day to let the true serious, sincere side out for a minute. I'm thankful for the wonderful women I work with, thankful for my wonderful family for their support and hard work, thankful for my mentor and coach (we all have one, and if you don't, you should get one!) I'm thankful that I live in such a beautiful place and that we'll be traveling to stay with family again this month. I'm thankful that my son will grow up knowing his grandparents. I'm thankful that we have wonderful friends. 

I'm so very grateful that I'm able to do what I love, and work from wherever I want to, and that I am blessed with the opportunity to meet so many amazing people full of potential and drive. The women I work with come to me when they're stuck, sometimes desperate, sometimes sad, often afraid. Just the act of saying "I choose myself. I do this for myself. I choose to move forward and try something new." THAT is so inspirational to me! You all inspire me every day, in so many ways, by your dedication to yourselves, your families, your happiness, your success. Bravo YOU!

What are you most grateful for today? How will you express your gratitude? 

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