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Lady Intuition Lead Me to Italy

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Lady Intuition Lead Me to Italy

 

I'm about to turn 30, you guys. THIRTY. 

Where? What? How? When? Whaaaaat?! 

30 isn't scary for me. I'm ready for it. I'm finally ready for the next 10 years of my life.

When I turned 25, I spent the night on the floor of my bathroom, sobbing, "When will it be my time?" My 20s were a god-awful hot mess of self loathing. I knew I wasn't meant to do anything I was doing, but I kept right on doing it. I had friendships and relationships that were all kinds of wrong. I drank all the time, worked 70-hour weeks and never slept. Either I was binge-eating or not eating, addicted to exercising and crippled by insecurity. I was the type of "busy" people wear like a badge of honor.

I thought if I could do it all, I would BE successful. It was magically going to happen overnight, because I deserved it. (Yes, I actually told myself that.) So when my 25th rolled around, I was drowning, drunk, sad and alone. No one was going to help me figure it out - emotionally, mentally or financially. There were a few people that were there through it all, but mostly, I was on my own.

30 IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN 25 IN MY STORY.

I'm not in that place anymore, I'm happy to say! I'm grateful for everything that has led me here - the struggles, the heartbreaks, the stumbles and the climb, the people who were there to help me through it, the moments of clarity, the Intuition that told me which way to go - that told me to stop what I was doing and choose to change it all.

Speaking of Intuition...

How do you KNOW that you're tuned in and fully aligned with what Lady Intuition is telling you? Honing your ability to listen in is what is essential to finding purpose and leading with vision. And successful businesswomen who love their lives know this to be true. Can I get a "Hell Yeah!"? 

rome italy family travel vacation

When you think of an idea, something that has been sitting in the back of your mind for a while, when you visualize it happening and coming to fruition... do you feel the butterflies? Do you feel inherently that you were meant to do this thing? When you feel those butterflies you'll find more clarity and purpose than ever before.

Listen to Lady Intuition. You’ll know exactly what you were meant to do, and you’ll be able to finally take steps to do it.

Wouldn't it be liberating to finally focus and expand your energy - to sort through the B.S. in life and just do what you LOVE? Wouldn't it be amazing to know what you're meant to do to move forward? Listening to your Intuition can literally be life-changing, and it's one of the major things that all really successful female entrepreneurs have in common.

If I didn't finally listen to my Intuition, who knows what would be. I wouldn't be celebrating my 30th in Italy. I wouldn't have clients or my own business. I wouldn't have taken a stand for myself when I needed to most.  

I wouldn't be MYSELF right now.

If you've followed along with my emails or social media, you know I'm committed to helping women start their own brilliant businesses do so without burnout. You inspirational women must prioritize self care above all else, because your business can't thrive, and you can't live life on your own terms without keeping Your Self intact. 

As fempreneurs/ mompreneurs/ entrepreneurs, it can be easy to let ourselves go when we're launching our business or a new product, which will lead to burnout in all areas. Burning out and being overwhelmed all of the time can cause lack of creativity, distraction, inability to prioritize, resent, loss of passion, and major inefficiency which will COST YOU MONEY, SANITY, TIME AND ENERGY.

So I started the #BANBURNOUT Challenge.

Join in by showing me on social media how you're banning burnout everyday with #BANBURNOUT. It's all about spreading the word and recognizing YOU for practicing self care when it matters most. It's about creating higher acceptance for women to prioritize their health and well being in order to THRIVE in life and business. 

I'm going to be releasing something insanely helpful for any aspiring female entrepreneur soon.

My baby boy, chowing down on pizza at Carlo Menta in the Trastevere area of Rome, Italy.

It'll show you how to build and run your new business while feeling aligned with your vision and purpose, and taking the proper care of yourself. No more 15-hour days, right ladies?! No burning the candle at both ends just to feel like you've made no progress! No more wearing "busy" like a badge of honor. No more feeling the LACK - of energy, time, money, focus, clarity... and self.

Stay tuned by signing up for my emails, so you can make sure you get this super special series filled with activities just for you.

With Love,

Allison

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How I Quit My Job + Started Doing What I Love

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How I Quit My Job + Started Doing What I Love

I get questions all of the time about how I quit my job, how I started out as a Success Coach, how was it possible to quit my job when I had a baby at home and no clients yet.

So let’s get down to it… the short version. If you want the long version, with a littler more detail, you’ll have to sign up for the Free Audio Series: How I Quit My Job and Started Doing What I Love. The audio will be ready in less than a week, and you'll want to be the first to know!

Here’s the deal. Leaving my job, actually leaving my Career in marketing, was a tough decision. I stressed about it for months and months. It wasn’t a decision I took lightly, and I did a lot of work to make sure I had a Plan B, for lack of a better term... and I still made some mistakes. Don't be afraid to think through the decision beforehand, because it is a big decision.

At the same time...

Don't wait for everything to be PERFECT.

Because it never will be perfect. That's because we're all perfectionists on some level. Ya dig? I have a whole lot of experience with beating perfectionist tendencies that hold you back from making decisions, because I used to be a perfectionist myself (like, big time. Totally indecisive, didn't start projects I cared about because I was afraid I couldn't do them perfectly.) If that sounds like you, SIGN UP for a Free 30-minute End the Perfectionist Paralysis Call with me. Let's explore your perfectionism and begin to get you on the road to living with a little less anxiety. Sound good? (It's free, so why the heck not, right?)

There are some things I would do differently, and some things I will recommend. Before we get started… 

If no one has told you yet:

It is possible to do something you love, to have a soul-fueled business, and still make a damn good living.

People do it every day! It's the soul purpose behind my business.

So why not you?

IT IS WORTH IT TO GO FOR IT. If I could do it, you absolutely can. 

So without further ado… let’s get started on some of my lessons learned and best tips for you on how to quit your job and do something you love.

1. Evaluate first WHY you want to leave your job. Is it your job that you want to leave, or the career you've had? Here are a couple of questions to help you:

  • Did something happen that, if fixed, you'd feel great? (Say - a disagreement with a colleague, or a difficult project that will be over soon...)
  • Are you happy less than 70% of the time overall with your work and your career?
  • Are you sticking around just because you like ONE part of what you do (maybe a specific task, or you love your colleagues, or specific skills you get to use?)... but you don't really like the rest of the job? I have always loved my team, and I've always had amazing mentors. Sometimes, that just doesn't make the job as great as it would be if it was the right fit for you.
  • Is it a longtime, lingering feeling in the pit of your stomach - that you just don't feel fulfilled in your career or your work? Are you constantly feeling that something isn't right, and that you wish you could do something more fulfilling?
  • Are you waking up each day excited to go to work... or dreading the day ahead?

For me, there was a lot involved in the decision... but mostly, I had always known I was meant for more, and I had always believed that I could change the world, help other women build businesses WHILE building my own... and that I could do it all with the ease and freedom I desired. After all, I didn't want to be one of those entrepreneurs who quit the 50-hour corporate grind workweek just to end up in an 80-hour workweek. EW! No! Not for me.

But I wanted that freedom. I didn't want to ask permission to take my son for mom and tot class, or to head up to the mountains to hike or ski for a long weekend, or to visit my family in Chicago, or to travel to ITALY (which I will for my 30th birthday in October! Because I can do that now!)

2. Believe that you are enough. You alone are worth whatever it is that you desire. Yes, I know it sounds all fluffy, but being in the right mindset is really the best thing you can do for yourself when you are preparing to go through a large shift in your life. You are worth the difficulties, the doubts, the wins and loses. You’re worth the effort and the risk. You alone - you’re enough. It’s possible for you to start a successful business. It’s possible for you to have a career you love. If I could do it at my lowest of lows, you can do it now. Whatever you want, there is someone out there who has it. That means it’s possible for you. Believe me - I didn’t think I “had it”… and actually people told me I didn’t. 

3. Get into a GROWTH mindset. What this means, essentially, is that you have to constantly look for ways to expand - in knowledge, in skill set, in openness, in understanding… just expand yourself. Let’s break this down a little further. Growing in knowledge is most useful to you if you think of information as your friend, and if you look for ways to learn as much as possible about the areas that interest you. Same for the skill sets you want to expand. Do you enjoy practicing that skill? Is it essential to what you want to do? Then cultivate it! This is one of the things I talk with my clients about all the time. 

4. Figure out what you want to DO, and who you want to BE. I have a whole process to get career clarity in my new group program that's accepting members now. It's called the 90 Day Roadmap to Career Clarity LIVE group. There is a lot of focus on clarity and figuring out what you want to do next and how to get there, but I'll touch on a bit here. 

The best way to get super clear is to ask yourself this: What is one thing you would do - spend all of your time on - even if you weren't paid for it?

But even that question can be a bit big for some people to start with. Here are a few more. Sit down in a quiet place with a pen and notebook, and journal out answers to the following.

  • List out the qualities you value most. You want to LIVE and WORK with purpose.
  • What activities do you enjoy now? If you had to pick THREE?
  • What did you enjoy when you were a child that continued with you in ways? For example, I used to love to listen to stories, to write and to draw. I still love doing those things which gave me a hint as to what I should be doing in my career - integrating those things in.
  • Think about how + where you work best (in an office? with a lot of people? alone? at home? Solopreneur? Team member? Giving direction? Or Taking direction?)
  • Think about what topics interest you and which ones would be worth exploring further into a career - write down 10. Then pick the top THREE.

Focusing on what you enjoy learning about and doing is the cornerstone to having a career you love. That is always the starting point.

5. Get your Plan B in place long before you quit. It may feel impossible to get on the road toward starting a new business or looking for a new job when you’re still working at your old job. But, there is definite upside in having the income from your old job. You can use many of the previously mentioned steps as things you can do while you're still at your current 9-to-5.

Here's a little bonus... TBH, once I decided I was going to quit my job, it actually made it EASIER to go to work. I started looking at it like, “well, i’ll make the most of this because hey, I don’t have to continue doing it that much longer!” I went back to being myself just a little bit, by knowing I had control of the situation. 

Extra Tip: This may seem like rocket science... but whatever you do, DO NOT start slacking off or "saying your piece" at work. You will likely want to have those work contacts after you leave. It's always great to leave on the BEST terms possible, so continue to be your kind, wonderful self, go into work, finish your projects on time and be the best colleague possible.

6. Start planning financially. You have to take a good hard look at your financial situation before you leave your job. Do you have an emergency fund? What do you need to cut back on? How much do you need to save per month? What’s the budget you MUST have to make this change happen for you?

Most importantly - what are you willing to do financially to make this dream happen? For us, we bought a 1-bedroom 650 square foot home AFTER we had a baby. Why? Because we knew I may eventually leave my job, or take a break at least, and we wanted to still be able to travel and put our son in school, and go out to eat, and go skiing... all things we love. So we bought a smaller home to begin with. I’m not saying you have to make the exact same decision. Some people need more space to spread out, and if you live in the burbs you may be able to get more house for the same amount we paid in Denver. This was the area we were willing to give a little in… and actually there is far less to clean, and we have less crap now. It’s a win-win for me.

So decide what you need to do to make it happen - and just know that if you’re truly going after something you love - you probably won’t really miss whatever you compromise on.

7. Set a deadline for your last day... even if it's months in advance and you don't tell your boss until 2 weeks beforehand. Then mark it on your (personal!) calendar so you stick to it. Believe me, it’s easier to have a feasible deadline if you know about your finances, and visa versa. It’s easier to go to work if you know your end date is approaching, too. I felt lighter once I knew I was leaving. My one regret was that I let the deadline linger a bit too long, which made it more difficult to tie up projects and feel good about where things were at.

Counting down the days until FREEDOM (from any 9-5, anywhere) for me, was like CHRISTMAS. And if you know me, you know I LOVE CHRISTMAS!

8. Get your Tribe together. I knew I wanted to get into a career path where I would help people, and I’m super passionate about helping women live better and do what they love. So the natural fit for me was coaching of some sort, but I didn’t know this right away… and even after I quit my job, I had no idea how to get started as a coach or how to start my own business. (I recommend you start getting some more pieces in place than I did BEFORE you quit.)

So immediately after I quit, I hired my own Life Coach, and then joined a group program for women, like me, who were ready to be coaches after that. I had to do the mindset work, quite frankly, to get into a good enough place mentally to be able to help other people and to be in business for myself.

And that’s when everything turned around. I started refining what type of coach I wanted to be and how to help my clients. I started getting more clients because I was actually doing a better job helping them, and because I was more confident.

I started truly believing that the things I wanted were possible for me. I don't know if I had ever done that before.

This experience in the group program I was (and am still!) a part of, is the reason I created my own signature group program for women who are ready to make a major career change, quit their job or become entrepreneurs. It’s called the 90 Day Roadmap to Career Clarity LIVE group program. I highly recommend joining a group, like this one. You NEED a group of women to help you through the immense change you're going to experience - to keep you on track, and to lift you up when you have skeptics in your life who put their doubts on you.

9. Take care of yourself. It’s all wonderful to do things for your family or your friends, or your job, or whatever other obligations, but honestly, if you don’t practice any form of self care, if you aren’t in a mindset that you must constantly grow as a person, if you don't believe that what you want is possible… you’re actually doing everyone around you that you care about a disservice

So I chose to get the guidance I needed...

And I’ve never been in a better place because I finally got the courage to quit doing something that was wrong for me. 

Those are the major steps.

I want you to feel this good, I want you to have a career and business that's right for you. I don’t want you to spend your life in a career track, corporate grind, 9-5, on everyone else's schedule type of thing... that isn’t fulfilling or exciting for you. You should be happy and excited to get up and go to work every day. No, it’s not all sunshine and daisies all the time, and having your own business can be a lot of hours… but it should be fun and light you up at least 70% of the time.

If you want more in depth info on how I quit my job, sign up for the free audio now! PLUS, I'm scheduling a LIVE call with me, going more in depth on how I quit my job and got everything in place, and the mistakes I made. You'll get to ask me specific questions and get some juicy details... so SIGN UP for the emails today, because the LIVE call is happening soon.

P.S. The group program (90 Day Roadmap to Career Clarity LIVE) I mentioned earlier is filling fast, and it’s probably because this tribe of women is already amazing! SIGN UP before the price goes up on September 20, 2015!

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Breaking Down Barriers to Doing What You Love

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Breaking Down Barriers to Doing What You Love

I'm insanely excited because we finally are going to Italy! We leave in less than a month. The flights have been booked since March, but we just solidified which cities to visit and where to stay. 

This trip to Italy has been planned since my husband and I first met. (Secretly, I've been planning on returning to Italy even before that!) I've been in love with Italy for so long. The first time I went there it was like see a long lost friend... deja vu all over the place. (Does anyone else out there have constant deja-vu? No, just me? Okay.)

Venice, 2011

I just belong in Italy. It's my Spirit Place. You know? That place that you feel totally yourself in.

My first experience in Italy was in the summer after I graduated high school, and I have gone back twice since then. This Fall will be the fourth trip to Italy - and Rome! I've never been to the Cinque Terre region, Naples or Florence before. It's so exciting to have this experience with my family this time around.

People ask me all the time how I've been able to travel, ski, hike and explore so frequently.

If you aren't familiar with our travels, in the past two years we've been: skiing in Colorado, spent summer weekends hiking in Breckenridge, made several trips to Chicago and recently spent 6 weeks there, visited Indianapolis, New Mexico, Washington D.C. AND obviously soon Italy. That's just the past two years. I've made quite a few more Europe and US trips prior to that. Next year we see Bali and Mexico in our future!

Back to the point... because we travel quite a bit, and because we go on longer vacations, I often get a mix of lovely comments and questions from people:

  • "Can you really afford to travel?"
  • "That's great for you, but we could never afford to do that...."
  • "That's great, but it's not worth it to us to pay for that."
  • "How do you find time to take trips?"
  • "We are just too busy to take any trips! Don't you miss out on things at home?
  • "How do you travel with your toddler like that? Are you crazy?!"
  • "I have to work so much... how are you able to get time off? What about your work?"

We are able to travel and explore because it is part of who we are, and it's a non-negotiable. Do we get to go EVERYWHERE we want to go at the drop of a hat? No. But we prioritize having these experiences over many other things. 

Here's a secret: all of these "obstacles" people have put in front of them are 100% mindset related. 

Let me answer these questions... the short version. To really get into them, it's best to work with a mindset or success coach to work through them because it takes time.

"Can you really afford to travel?"

"That's great for you, but we could never afford to go there...."

Money is the number one objection to travel that I hear of, but traveling is also one of the number one things I hear people say they WISH they could do more of.

We would give anything to travel more!

I'll be direct: you can afford whatever you want to afford. This all goes back to your money mindset and your money story. We carry beliefs about finances and "value" from generation to generation, and we see messages from advertising about what we should spend our money on and hear messages about money from our friends and teachers. It is no wonder we have major issues when it comes to spending money on experiences for OURSELVES. 

I get that you have bills to pay, debt, etc, but you are in control of your money mindset at the heart of it all. So you will find a way to pay for what you really desire to have. For example, I have a friend who always has the same response when we talk about an upcoming trip: "We would LOVE to go to Europe, but we could never afford it." I got news for you: you're right, but it's not because you CAN'T. It's because you don't make it a priority. That $500 you spend on clothing and shoes every month? If you saved it instead, or even just saved half of it, you'd be heading to Europe next summer. No problem.

All of the "things" that you buy (clothing, jewelry, gadgets, etc) while they'll bring happiness, it will wane more over time. However, if you spend money on an experience that you really deeply desire (doesn't even have to be travel! Could be canoeing, or painting, or a writing class), you may pay more up front for it (or maybe you won't), but you will have the memories of the experiences you have forever. Therefore, experiences will bring you more joy for a longer period of time. This has actually been proven, FYI.

So you think you can't afford to travel? You CAN. You just need to do the mindset work to realize what is worth it to you and start taking steps toward doing what you really want to do.

"How do you find time to take trips? Don't you get behind on things?"

"We are just too busy to take any trips! Don't you miss out on things at home?"

"What about your deadlines at work?"

You are totally in control of how you spend your Time, so you need to make the decision to spend it on things you enjoy.

Here is my big tip: STOP doing so much of the things that don't light you up or make you feel great. Just say NO. Stop being so busy just for the sake of being busy, or because you keep letting people tell you what your obligations are. I know so many people that say yes to far too much for everyone else or because they're afraid of how everyone else will think of them, but they end up run down, exhausted and unhappy. 

When you decide what you desire to spend your time and energy on, you will find really quickly that you have more Time for the things you really enjoy. 

Believe me: seeing this is worth the plane ride with a toddler!

We enjoy traveling. So we make Time for it - our energy gets allocated to arranging travel and daydreaming about our trips. It makes us happy! Therefor, we arrange what needs to be arranged to make our desire to travel a reality.

Sidenote: I understand that work and "obligations" can get in the way of your Time and the amount you have to spend on things you enjoy, like traveling. I get that you have to work, or you hope to have a job to be able to afford the things you desire soon. 

If you choose to have a job that you love, you will have plenty of Time to do what you love... always! I am my own boss so I can work from wherever I want. I could easily choose not to travel because I'm like, a busy woman! When I was working in marketing, I still asked for the time I wanted off to travel. I would travel full time if we could. My husband works for a very large company, but he works from wherever he wants. He has to be at meetings in person often, too and has some pretty important deadlines... but that doesn't mean he can't ask for the time he wants for our travels. He just makes it a priority to ASK.

If you don't have a career you love, and you are ready and willing to spend time doing something that lights you up, consider signing up for 1-on-1 coaching with me or sign up for 90 Day Roadmap to Career Clarity LIVE, my new signature group program dedicated to helping people make career transformations and map out their journey!)

"How do you travel with your toddler like that? Are you crazy?!"

Damn right, we're crazy! Crazy for experience. We crave experience, and there isn't much that can deter us. Toddlers are busy, energetic little beings. My son is in a fantastic phase right now where he thinks it's cute to remove his adorable little diaper and run around the house, peeing on everything. But...

You can NOT stop doing the things that will make you a happy person just because you're afraid or unable to control everything. I LOVE exploring the world. I want my son to love exploring, too. That's one of my favorite things about toddlers. They're so curious. I want my son to be part of these experiences with me. Do I worry about the long overseas flight with him? Sure! But we aren't going to avoid a whole entire three week trip because he MAY hate the flight. Do I worry about him adjusting to the time change? Sure!... but we'll all be adjusting to the time change, and honestly, the kid can nap whenever he pleases. So can we! And we'll be so busy exploring that I have no doubts about our abilities to sleep and listen to our own needs. 

A sidenote to this: I'm a huge fan of AirBnb. We're hosts! Our cozy house is listed in Denver. So instead of going the hotel route, we decided to book AirBnb apartments during our trip - one in each of the cities we're visiting. This gives us a little more flexibility with our schedule. We will have a kitchen in each rental meaning we can cook and avoid taking our busy tot out to eat for EVERY meal. In Europe - Italy especially - it's common to spend some time lingering over your meal at a restaurant, and Finn doesn't like sitting in his highchair for very long... which makes long meals difficult to accomplish.  

The only way to truly be happy is to be open and adaptable enough to welcome the unexpected into your life... and to find ways to do more of the things you really want.

If you crave experience, like me, you'll understand what I'm saying here. 

If you are ready to start doing what you love, and if you're willing to prioritize your transformation and desires, be willing to take the next step. Sign up for the signature 90 Day Roadmap to Career Clarity LIVE Group

Tell me: where have your travels taken you lately? How will you make more room for experience in your life? What's holding you back? 

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30 Things You Can Do to Bust-A-Rut Today

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30 Things You Can Do to Bust-A-Rut Today

I recently read Choose Yourself by James Altucher, and it is one of my all-time favorite books because of the message he sends and the way he delivers it. There is a portion of the book where he gets pretty raw and talks about getting off the floor, or being at bottom, and this is at the beginning of the book because it needs to be addressed immediately.

I'm going to be pretty honest with you: I HAVE BEEN THERE. 

Before I became the much more confident person I am today, I went through a pretty rough patch. We'll call it a major quarter-life crisis. I had been laid off from a job I loved (Thanks a lot, 2008 recession!), and I'd moved halfway across the country to a city where I knew no one except my boyfriend at the time. Now, while this ended up being a great move for me, it was initially insanely lonely. My boyfriend and I were Fire and Ice: sounds great and exciting in theory... but in reality, they just don't "mesh well". I had found a new job, but it was full of bullies and people with toxic energy, and I didn't enjoy the work. To top it off, I had body image issues up the wazoo that I thought I'd dealt with but that I realized were still lingering on. I was lonely... and I was devastatingly depressed and angry. All of the time.

So one day, I slumped to the floor in my bathroom (gross), and I didn't get up for about 72 hours. I didn't eat. I maybe had a glass of water, from a dingy glass that had been in the bathroom for a month. (Also gross.) I had let everyone tell me what I should do, and how I should do it, and who I was or was expected to be as a person for SO LONG that I sank under the weight of everyone's expectations. I didn't even know myself anymore, or what I even wanted for myself. It was like that part in Eat, Pray, Love where Elizabeth Gilbert says "I didn’t want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.” 

I literally wanted to move away where no one would know me and my story could start over. This was a pretty huge "woe is me" moment. It was also when I finally realized that I had to learn how to care for and heal myself.

I'm telling you this because you need to know that if this is where you are - at bottom, on the floor - I HAVE BEEN THERE. You are not alone. And there is an important message for you here...

YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE YOURSELF. 

I'm giving you the green light to be a little bit selfish (in a GOOD way)! You have to choose to move forward. Choose to get up. Choose to treat yourself AND everyone else around you like the amazing people you/they are. Choose to do one thing today that will get you out of your rut. Then tomorrow, do two things. Just do one thing at a time and the change will happen. But you have to choose to make healing yourself, being the BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF NON-NEGOTIABLE, because you are really, truly the only one that can help yourself. And in being the best version of yourself, that is when you'll really impact other people in an amazing, inspiring way just by being you. 

If this is where you are right now, I'm giving you my personal list (for FREE!) of the top 30 Things I Did (and that YOU can do) to Break Out of Your Rut. I hope this list of ideas helps you as much as it helped me. Make doing that one thing per day non-negotiable, make healing and growing non-negotiable. 

P.S. - I have something new coming out within the next month!

It's an awesome NEW PROGRAM that I'm so excited to launch. It is going to be an awesome opportunity to experience some major self-transformation and bust out of your career rut. So stay tuned for more news on it soon!

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