Be Who You Are: No Explanation Required
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This blog post is coming to you from a lovely coffee shop where I've been working at often. I love my home and my home office, too...
I'm so grateful to be here, to have this freedom to work from anywhere, even my favorite local coffee shops, or the comfort of my bed while my son naps next to me. :)
But less than 2 years ago, I wasn't able to do these things. I was still in the corporate world - living on everyone else's schedules, doing work that others told me I had to do, doing so many things that drained me and didn't feel right for me.
It took something specific to get here.
3 things, in fact. I see them all show up CONSISTENTLY in the entrepreneurs who grow and expand faster and farther.
Learn more about them and grab your free worksheet below!
The Anti-Back-Up Plan Approach [Adventure Knocks! Podcast Episode 15]
You get an amazing idea, and you're all "Holy Hell: this is going to be amazing." Maybe what you want to design is a new app, an e-course, a line of handmade kids clothes, a book, a company, a solution to someone's problem. So you start getting into this high. You begin formulating the plans to execute this idea. You're totally immersed in this brilliant idea and how it's going to flipping transform your life, and other people's lives... and then it hits.
It's that voice. It's back again.
This is going to be so much work. What if you put all of this time, money and energy into this and it doesn't work? What if people hate it? You'll just embarrass yourself if you fail. Was this a stupid idea in the first place? Yeah, probably... I'll just let it go and go back to doing everything exactly the same. Why risk it? It's just easier to not think about it anymore.
Raise your hand if you've been here before. I know I have, over and over and over.
YOU CAN CHOOSE NOT TO THINK THIS WAY.
YOU'VE JUST GOT TO BE THE SANTA CLAUS IN YOUR LIFE.
But then that voice comes back and tells you it's stupid. If you don't believe in yourself, you may end up squashing your brilliant ideas and solutions to the problems in the world before you even begin.
You believed in Santa Claus for 8 years. You can't see Santa. You can't smell him. You have obviously never touched the real Santa (besides taking cute photos on one of his "helpers'" knees in the middle of the mall when you were 5.) You have doubtless heard many stories about him, and you believed in him so deeply and intently for a long time that there was no way he wasn't real. Remember that feeling of believing in someone you couldn't see?
You were able to do this - believe in this unseeable, un-feelable, intangible being - for years.
So how do we cultivate that ability to have unwavering faith in something amazing, like ourselves?
You've got to be your own Santa Claus.
Not the creepy Santa from the mall who smelled like cheese. I think we called him "Santa's Helper."
You want to have this feeling with yourself... warm, fuzzy, trusting, believing, everything is right with the world type of goodness.
You see and feel your own transformation internally every day. You know of your own countless amazing experiences, abilities, and life learnings. You know how far you've come in your life. So why aren't you able to believe in yourself, and in your own ability to have great ideas, to create things that matter, to learn and to improve the world?
THE KEY TO BELIEVING IN YOURSELF IS BUILDING BACK TRUST IN YOURSELF.
So how do we do that? Some ideas that may help you begin to trust yourself and your own abilities again:
- Connect with your WHY. Why is this idea in my head? Why is it important to me? What do I really desire to get from this at the heart of it all? What's the purpose
- FOLLOW THROUGH on your projects and ideas that you are really excited about. Start small and then work your way up.
- Split your bigger ideas into smaller goals.
- Set a DATE for when you wish to accomplish for your big idea. Write it on a calendar and hang it on the wall. Put it in your phone.
- Flip the switch. Example: turn "You could never do this." into "I can totally do this!"
- Stop giving away your time and energy like it's free candy. It's NOT free candy. It's precious. (This doesn't mean we are mean to people, or spiteful, or unhelpful in entirety. This simply means that we have boundaries and don't say YES to any requests when you mean NO. Just say No.)
- Write down your affirmations (all of the thoughts you have that you must flip the switch on) on sticky notes and put them around the house. Having things visually available helps. Or you could even get some affirmations put on artwork, like this one.
- Distance yourself from or put up your shield around people that aren't exactly helpful to you. (Note: the worriers, the skeptics, the people that make you feel bad when you talk about what you wish to accomplish. Yes this is difficult. YES, it matters.)
- When you're ready to execute an idea, find a partner, or a coach, or join a group that can help you stay accountable. These partners can help you find new ways to execute on your idea and can encourage and inspire you when you're feeling stuck.
- Find a way to take care of yourself. Eat better. Exercise. Meditate. Get outside. Get more sleep. Taking care of yourself allows you to trust and believe MORE in yourself.
- Create a home that fuels your success.
- Read Choose Yourself, by James Altucher
- Watch/listen to YouTube videos by Abraham Hicks (a favorite.)
- Read this children's book called What Do You Do With An Idea? It's one of my favorites!
Lastly: believe in what you can't see, just as much as what you can see.
The more you do, the more awesome ideas will come to you, and you'll have more ability to follow through on those ideas. You'll begin to know what to go after and what not to, and you just may finally squash that freakin' pesky voice that told you it was stupid. The more you believe, the more you succeed, the more you feel amazingly full of faith in yourself... the more you'll create.
So believe in yourself with unwavering faith just the way many of us believed in Santa Claus when we were younger! Believe in your truths, the power of your stories, the power of your presence, and what you STAND FOR.
And now that you believe in yourself, you can totally leave yourself some cookies and milk, Santa ;)