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Lady Intuition Lead Me to Italy

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Lady Intuition Lead Me to Italy

 

I'm about to turn 30, you guys. THIRTY. 

Where? What? How? When? Whaaaaat?! 

30 isn't scary for me. I'm ready for it. I'm finally ready for the next 10 years of my life.

When I turned 25, I spent the night on the floor of my bathroom, sobbing, "When will it be my time?" My 20s were a god-awful hot mess of self loathing. I knew I wasn't meant to do anything I was doing, but I kept right on doing it. I had friendships and relationships that were all kinds of wrong. I drank all the time, worked 70-hour weeks and never slept. Either I was binge-eating or not eating, addicted to exercising and crippled by insecurity. I was the type of "busy" people wear like a badge of honor.

I thought if I could do it all, I would BE successful. It was magically going to happen overnight, because I deserved it. (Yes, I actually told myself that.) So when my 25th rolled around, I was drowning, drunk, sad and alone. No one was going to help me figure it out - emotionally, mentally or financially. There were a few people that were there through it all, but mostly, I was on my own.

30 IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN 25 IN MY STORY.

I'm not in that place anymore, I'm happy to say! I'm grateful for everything that has led me here - the struggles, the heartbreaks, the stumbles and the climb, the people who were there to help me through it, the moments of clarity, the Intuition that told me which way to go - that told me to stop what I was doing and choose to change it all.

Speaking of Intuition...

How do you KNOW that you're tuned in and fully aligned with what Lady Intuition is telling you? Honing your ability to listen in is what is essential to finding purpose and leading with vision. And successful businesswomen who love their lives know this to be true. Can I get a "Hell Yeah!"? 

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When you think of an idea, something that has been sitting in the back of your mind for a while, when you visualize it happening and coming to fruition... do you feel the butterflies? Do you feel inherently that you were meant to do this thing? When you feel those butterflies you'll find more clarity and purpose than ever before.

Listen to Lady Intuition. You’ll know exactly what you were meant to do, and you’ll be able to finally take steps to do it.

Wouldn't it be liberating to finally focus and expand your energy - to sort through the B.S. in life and just do what you LOVE? Wouldn't it be amazing to know what you're meant to do to move forward? Listening to your Intuition can literally be life-changing, and it's one of the major things that all really successful female entrepreneurs have in common.

If I didn't finally listen to my Intuition, who knows what would be. I wouldn't be celebrating my 30th in Italy. I wouldn't have clients or my own business. I wouldn't have taken a stand for myself when I needed to most.  

I wouldn't be MYSELF right now.

If you've followed along with my emails or social media, you know I'm committed to helping women start their own brilliant businesses do so without burnout. You inspirational women must prioritize self care above all else, because your business can't thrive, and you can't live life on your own terms without keeping Your Self intact. 

As fempreneurs/ mompreneurs/ entrepreneurs, it can be easy to let ourselves go when we're launching our business or a new product, which will lead to burnout in all areas. Burning out and being overwhelmed all of the time can cause lack of creativity, distraction, inability to prioritize, resent, loss of passion, and major inefficiency which will COST YOU MONEY, SANITY, TIME AND ENERGY.

So I started the #BANBURNOUT Challenge.

Join in by showing me on social media how you're banning burnout everyday with #BANBURNOUT. It's all about spreading the word and recognizing YOU for practicing self care when it matters most. It's about creating higher acceptance for women to prioritize their health and well being in order to THRIVE in life and business. 

I'm going to be releasing something insanely helpful for any aspiring female entrepreneur soon.

My baby boy, chowing down on pizza at Carlo Menta in the Trastevere area of Rome, Italy.

It'll show you how to build and run your new business while feeling aligned with your vision and purpose, and taking the proper care of yourself. No more 15-hour days, right ladies?! No burning the candle at both ends just to feel like you've made no progress! No more wearing "busy" like a badge of honor. No more feeling the LACK - of energy, time, money, focus, clarity... and self.

Stay tuned by signing up for my emails, so you can make sure you get this super special series filled with activities just for you.

With Love,

Allison

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5 Things That Helped Us Pare Down

We live in a small home, and there are three of us (my husband, our 16 month old little boy) and our dog.

When we made the move from 1800 sq ft of space to 650 sq ft, we realized very quickly that we needed to pare down. STAT. Daunting... yes. Impossible... no. Compartmentalizing is key in these instances.

But, clearing clutter (literally) can help you be less overwhelmed and happier. Plus, there's less to clean up and worry about, meaning you free up more time to do what you really want to do.

1. Don't mix alcohol with The Purge. Trust me, I love a good glass of wine, especially during stressful moments. Decluttering and moving are stressful events. I HATE packing, but this is no the time to be drunk. Stay strong and get through the paring down process without the vino! You'll get sentimental, lazy, and - dare I say, weepy? You can always celebrate a job well done afterward.

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2. Take your time. I'm not the type of person who does or will ever feel good about just tossing a bunch of things all in one go. It gives me anxiety. I took the approach of instead, purging some things and then waiting a few months after we moved in to have another dedicated Declutter Day. A few months after that, repeat. I need to do things in small phases. It helps to avoid a major freak out.

Source: http://katerivonstealsnewlife.blogspot.com/2014/10/humpday-confessions-10-1-im-not.html

Source: http://katerivonstealsnewlife.blogspot.com/2014/10/humpday-confessions-10-1-im-not.html

3. Admit your weaknesses. I have major love affairs with books; in fact, buying books from Goodwill or thrift shops is one of my majorly favorite forms of therapy. When I read a book, a really good one, I'm stuck drifting through the storyline for days. I imagine all of the events happening to me. There is nothing like the smell of an old book, the feel of the crinkled pages, the sight of someone else's name etched into the inside cover. Who owned this copy of Summerland or Tales Told in Holland or The Dovekeepers?  (By the way, The Dovekeepers will make you cry your face off.) How many times did they read them? What were their favorite parts? Or did they hate them? Books are one of those items that I unabashedly bring into my home and don't get rid of. Ever. Which brings me to my next point...

My dream library!!

4. Find ways to creatively display the things you love. Living in a small house can give you urges to fold into a super clean, modern feel. Easy to clean up. Easy to organize. Easy to live in... But, if there is nothing left of you in your home, then is it worth living there? I don't feel right without some personalization, which is why we have several shelves of books creatively displayed. It has to be done. These characters, after all, have been a part of me, and I of them, at some point. And, when we host AirBnb guests, I like thinking that they can snuggle up with a book when they return from their outings at night. There are plenty of choices for them here. One woman even asked if she could take a book with her that she'd started and would send it back as soon as she was done reading it. I obliged!

All I'm saying is, personalize your space. Use colors you love. Momentos that mean a lot to you. Display your photos, ticket stubs, whatever! Your home is not really your home without you in it.

5. Reuse, recycle, donate, sell... and feel good about it! I don't know about you, but I feel better knowing that those cerulean suede peep-toe heels I bought and wore just once five years ago (seriously, back when I lived in Chicago) are now on someone's lovely feet, living a better life somewhere. They're strolling around downtown Denver, I'm sure, getting way more use than I got out of them. And a lovely lady (...or lad - no judgement here!) is getting proper use out of them, for free. There are plenty of people who are happy to buy gently used items and plenty of services will donate your belongings to those in need. See? Don't you feel better about getting rid of those things you were holding on to for so long?

6. Bring in the big guns... AKA your husband/pragmatic friend/mom/dog. When you feel like you literally can't get rid of anything, this person will ask you the hard questions. Yes, you'll hate them briefly, but they'll help you get started with the purge, at the very least.

What tips do you have for paring down your belongings to live in a small space?

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